What advice would you give your younger leader self?

By July 1, 2015Uncategorized

downloadIt’s a question I’ve posed to clients and mastermind leadership peer group in the past: what guidance or wisdom would you share with your younger self if you could go back ten, twenty, thirty years (or more)?

Life can be a great teacher. Probably the best “education” we can get right? 

The idea helps us to think about our journey. Lao Tzu reminds that “A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step.” The question helps us reflect on how we’ve viewed our successes and setbacks, how we’ve valued our authentic selves, other commitments, how we’ve bounced back from defeat– among endless other inquiries.

Sometimes the best advice is the advice you wish you could give to your younger self. In this post, I asked my online mastermind group of business leaders what they would tell their youngerself when they began that journey of leadership.

Here’s a sample of what they had to say: You can find out more about each one of these executives and my online mastermind group right here: Mastermind Group.

 Tal Shnall advice to his younger self:

“The one piece of advice I would give to my younger self is to discover my purpose, gifts and my calling early on in my life. Take massive action to making those dreams and goals a reality.  Add value to the people around me and Invest in continuous personal growth. It would add value to your career, relationships and embrace failures as learning opportunities as much as you can. Don’t take things personally, because God has a bigger vision and purpose for you. Serve, Lead and trust God along the way. He is there to support your biggest dreams!”

 Cheri Essner advice to her younger self:

“Life is an amazing journey.  Our love for learning and adventure, along with our green thumb has made every day a gift.  We have some twists and turns in our journey that will be more difficult than others.  Life offers surprises that will cause great joy and great sadness.  My advice to you is to live in the moment and make the best memories possible for yourself and everyone you touch with that green thumb.  You can create great beauty using this ability not only in the garden but to foster growth in people as well.  When life is starting to overwhelm you, remember to create happy moments.  Please continue our yoga practice and for goodness sake lay off the Haagen Dazs ice cream. It will help us in the future!”

Kelli Smithgall advice to her younger self:

“Chill out and stop being a perfectionist. That’s the first bit of advice I’d give to my younger self. Followed by: Always enjoy the moment. Stop being a doormat. Never regret anything because you’re going to make a ton of mistakes (well, maybe you’re allowed to regret one thing). There will be times when you’ll be majorly screwed over, but move on to the next chapter…quickly. Never lose your joy, faith, and laughter because it will carry you through everything. Life isn’t going to be the fairy tale you’ve had up until now, and guess what, who cares…Fairy tales that end in a twist, trust me, are much more exciting.”

Elizabeth Stincelli advice to her younger self:

“Looking back, most of us can come up with a long list of things we wish we would have known when we were younger. But, if I had to narrow it down to one piece of advice, I would tell my 20 year-old self that you don’t need to know everything. It’s okay to admit that you don’t know. It’s okay to not fight to the end in defense of what you “think” you know. There is something you can learn every day, from everyone. Open your mind, value diverse points-of-view, and give yourself the opportunity to continue to learn and grow.”

Doug Dickerson advice to his younger self

“The one piece of advice I’d give my 20 year- old self comes from a quote from Dale Carnegie who said, “Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.” I would take that courage and run after my goals and dreams with a different confidence. I would take more risks, dream bigger dreams, pray bolder prayers, and dare to believe that with God all things are possible. Courage is the fuel of your dreams. I’d be more determined to believe that I could make a more significant difference in my world and not play it so safe.”

I’d invite you to think for a minute or two about that younger version of yourself.

Send me a quick email to: tal.shnall@leadershiphospitality.com

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